Ten dirt simple hacks to say goodbye to "Over thinking"

1. Have your emotion for less people and things.
2. Don't get overtly attached to something or someone.
3. Success is temporary, failure is not permanent.
4. Have a 10 minutes daily ritual for overthinking at 8:00 PM.
5. Learn to be disciplined and teach your mind to overthink at 8:00 PM.
6. Channelize your overthinking into beautiful piece of art. Draw sketches, write poems, stories, fiction, etc. Get the creative juices flowing.
7. Be busy in meaningful things. Engage yourself constructively and there is no time for even that 8 PM daily ritual. Trust me!
8. Start giving back to people around you online, offline.
9. Don't expect anything from anyone. It's difficult yet possible.
10. The positive vibes you'll release now, travels to far off places, even thousand miles away to help, cheer and inspire others. And, when someone gets inspired, you get back the positivity spread by you, which is now ten times stronger that what you released.What goes around comes around getting stronger. (But, remember-S.No-9)

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What Are The 11 Myths People Have In their 20s About Career & Life?

1. I have failed, I envy others.
1. Nothing is permanent.
2. Failures are commas not full stop.
3. A girl failed to get Science as she got less marks in Class Xth and hence she opted for Commerce. Many frowned upon her. Today, I got to know that she did LLB and after than did her Masters from Europe and has got an hefty offer.
4. I work for the largest Construction company in India and make a little less than half of her salary.
5. Although Money, College, Job, etc are poor benchmark of success yet I have used money as a benchmark just to give an idea about how the society judges us.
6. Never envy others and learn to appreciate others when they achieve something good. She is a wonderful person and I am happy that many will be inspired to know about her.
2. I am waiting for the perfect moment- There is nothing called perfect moment. Try to get the maximum out of whatever you have. Minimize Procrastination, and never wait for the perfect moment. Life happens when we wait for the perfect moment.
3. It has been too late to learn or take charge of our life- It is never too late to learn and improve our life. Do you feel that you have not achieved enough at say 21 years.
1. Let me share about APJ Abdul kalam. He was a popular scientist but he became world famous after he was chosen as India's president at the age of 70 years. He was literally unknown till 70 years of age.
2. Charles Darwin, yes from your Biology Textbook was considered as Insane as till 50 years of age, according to people he was a wanderer. He was doing research and when he published his book after 50 years of age, he started getting recognition.
3. Albert Einstein has worked as a Clerk but that didn't prevented him from becoming a great scientist of all time.
4. I don't have zeal to learn- Larry Page invented Google and it became a dream company for many people. 
1. He just followed his passion. May be he was also not having the zeal to learn or work on the traditional subjects. So he created something new.
2. Initially, he even went to sell it to Yahoo, who felt that it was too overpriced.
5. Our Problems are terribly difficult- Our problems are not as difficult as it seems to us. 20 years down the line it will hardly matter if you got a plum job after college or you are jobless, if you have a GF/BF or not in college, if you have failed in the exams or have topped it. Meet me after 20 years and we will discuss your current problems over coffee.
6. I am Good for Nothing-  Everything in this universe is for some purpose. Crocodile cannot fly and Butterfly cannot swim. There is no point for the crocodile to feel bad that he cannot fly or the butterfly to feel bad for not being able to swim. Doesn't it makes sense. Same is with all of us. We just need to identify things which makes us happy.
7. I have wasted X years of my life- We feel that we have wasted our life but you know, nothing is wasted in this world.
1. Do you know the story of bamboo tree? 
2. It doesn’t show sign of growth in first four- five years. But, in the next one year it will grow rapidly.
3. Now, the reality is that the growth doesn't occur only in one year, it happens over a period of 5-6 years.
4. During the first 5 years the growth of roots is happening and the foundation is getting stronger which let the bamboo to grow rapidly in last one year.
5. Same is with all of us. We just need six months to a year to have a visible growth. [I've six month of my Unique Quora Experience which transformed me by leaps and bound]
6. All the years before that are definitely not wasted. Believe me.
7. Good experience gives you joy, bad experience build your character and personality. So, they both are equally important.
8. I don't have Natural Talent- Galileo told that the earth moves around the sun. But at that time, Everyone  felt that he was wrong and people wanted to kill him. Everyone knew that  Earth was fixed and sun revolved around the earth, which was later proved wrong .
1. Galileo was considered as a mad man all his life. The poor chap got all the recognition after his death. Even today all our textbooks are full with works of  Galileo.
2. Not only him, Abraham Lincoln was unable to win even a local election, all his life he failed in whatever he did. He failed more than us for sure and see one day he became the president of US. It was not luck but hard work. Remember the bamboo story. See it's working.
9. It will not work out- Follow your heart and chase your dreams as they are worth it. There is nothing which can't work out even when the idea looks ridiculous to others. The key is that you must believe in the idea, that’s it.
1. In India, almost everyone loves cricket and is a cricket commentator.
2. But, that doesn't stopped Harsha Bhogle from becoming a full time Cricket Commentator after his post graduation from IIM Ahmadabad.
3. He must have been mocked for his choice of profession but he had passion for it and he pursued something he loved doing.
4. If you are a Movie Buff - You can be an expert reviewer and can also earn and get paid for watching movies and writing reviews.
10. I am at a Disadvantage- Disability is the inability to know ability. Read out the lessons from so-called disadvantaged girls, Virali Modi,  Miss Wheelchair India 2014, Runner Up and Ira Singhal, Differently abled UPSC Topper .Rohan Sinha's answer to When is it advantageous to be disadvantaged?
11. I don't give a damn to People- The world is all about people. Make sure to be nice and respectful to others. Always strive to add value to the life of others. Never let good people go out of your sight. Thanks for your time.  :)

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How To Deal With Too Many Options?

By doing too many things without thinking where I am heading, without worrying about gain or pain.

By moving forward after falling and then rising every time.

People say you do too many things and are bound to fail.

I fail to listen and keep running pursuing different passions.

I prepared a list of 35-40 things that I wanted to do. Then, I filtered out some of them, clubbed many and finally landed at 19 Things that make me happy

I started following them crazily.

I Read books. Write summaries.

Do Volunteering. Write.

Enjoy the company of nature. Write.

Surfing Internet to Know or learn something new. Write.

Photography. Write to compliment each unique photo.

Travelling. Write about the experience.

Food. Cook And write

Lift someone’s spirit,  Mentor someone. Write

Watching good movies & documentaries, Write reviews

Home Decoration. Write.

In this process, I found clarity. I realized that I'm interested in niche blogging

I have too many options and so I run many niche blogs. Here is a glimpse. You can apply this for whatever is your calling.

Writing is Painting - Writing, storytelling and blogging tips

Life is Beautiful is collection of my journey as a blogger. It has more than 400 posts about my life experiences, struggle, frustrations and lessons learned in life, etc.

Career Consultant - Career Advice, CAT/GATE/PSUs Exams Tips, Career Myths

Psychological Patterns - Patterns from study of human behaviour.

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Life Advice- One Liners

1. Be yourself- When you're comfortable in your skin, you're beautiful.
2. Doormat says that I'm destined to be used, not you.
3. Life is like a house of 1000 mirrors which shows your own reflection.
4. Life is neither tough nor easy, it depends on your perception whether you find it tough or easy, today your mood is good and you find life as easy while yesterday you were upset and felt life was tough.
5. Fog says that when you will insist, I have to pave way for light.
6. Confidence makes you look more beautiful.
7. Happy people are beautiful people.

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Is it too late to make a comeback?

Is It Too Late?: I am 24-years-old and feel like a complete failure who has wasted many, many years. What can I do to quickly get myself back on track?

No. Stop living in your mind. Take a piece on paper and start writing all that interests you. Set your mind free and don't worry if you have the skills or not.
How to quickly get back on track?
The answer to this lies in your answer to this question-What I want to do if money is not an issue?

• I can't answer for your behalf but to help you get an idea. I'm sharing mine.
• For me, the list was too long.
• After removing the clutter, I felt that
• Writing and observing people and things are two key skills. Passive skills. What the hell can I do by saying that I love to write.
• My secondary Interests were Photography, Gardening, Home Decoration, Cooking, Watching Documentaries, Mentoring, Motivating People, etc.
• I started revolving my secondary Interests around the Primary Interest of Writing and observation skills.
• The observation skills helps to notice small things that often go unnoticed.
• I'm feeling a lot happy, enjoying my life by doing what I love doing.
• I've a day job that I enjoy because it's a wonderful place to get the ideas for writing along with a good place for those with people skills.
• By doing all this, got featured in Business Insider for suggestions on Interpersonal skills.
• So, I got lucky. Lucky things happen when you keep doing many things till you start finding the clue.
• When you are still siting the room doing nothing then you can't get the real idea about what's your calling.

Excerpts from Career Myths- What Are The 11 Myths People Have In their 20s About Career & Life? by Rohan Sinha on Career Consultant

1. It has been too late to learn or take charge of our life- It is never too late to learn and improve our life. Do you feel that you have not achieved enough at say 21 years.
1. Let me share about APJ Abdul kalam. He was a popular scientist but he became world famous after he was chosen as India's president at the age of 70 years. He was literally unknown till 70 years of age.
2. Charles Darwin, yes from your Biology Textbook was considered as Insane as till 50 years of age, according to people he was a wanderer. He was doing research and when he published his book after 50 years of age, he started getting recognition.
3. Albert Einstein has worked as a Clerk but that didn't prevented him from becoming a great scientist of all time.
2. I don't have zeal to learn- Larry Page invented Google and it became a dream company for many people.
1. He just followed his passion. May be he was also not having the zeal to learn or work on the traditional subjects. So he created something new.
2. Initially, he even went to sell it to Yahoo, who felt that it was too overpriced.
3. I have wasted X years of my life- We feel that we have wasted our life but you know, nothing is wasted in this world.
1. Do you know the story of bamboo tree?
2. It doesn’t show sign of growth in first four- five years. But, in the next one year it will grow rapidly.
3. Now, the reality is that the growth doesn't occur only in one year, it happens over a period of 5-6 years.
4. During the first 5 years the growth of roots is happening and the foundation is getting stronger which let the bamboo to grow rapidly in last one year.
5. Same is with all of us. We just need six months to a year to have a visible growth. [I've six month of my Unique Quora Experience which transformed me by leaps and bound]
6. All the years before that are definitely not wasted. Believe me.
7. Good experience gives you joy, bad experience build your character and personality. So, they both are equally important.

Get out of your comfort zone and follow your heart. Always.

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How Should I Make A Hard Decision?

Being specific is a good problem solving technique. "Making a hard life decision" is so generic that even after breaking it down into many pieces, it was difficult to understand. Let's see a sample case study.

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Case study- I have completed my B-Tech and have got offers from couple of Tech support companies. Is it worth leaving that and trying to get a job of Java Developer from off-campus.

1. Main Problem-
1. Should I leave tech support job offers just because I want to be a software developer?
2. Break down the Problem-
1. Is it worth joining a tech support job when I want to be a software developer.
2. Can I afford being jobless even after graduating from college.
3. What people will think- I have a reputation to live up to.
4. Will it be embarrassing for my parents, siblings?
5. Do I have the fire in the belly to chase my dreams.
6. How will I find a job?
7. What if I failed? It is safe to join a tech support and try for Programming jobs.
3. Answer each problem that is mentioned about, I am answering the answers my brother gave when he was in college.
1. No. I don't want to spend time playing cricket if I want to be a Goal Keeper.
2. Yes, it's okay to be jobless unless you and parents feel otherwise. It's a phase of life and comes in everyone's life. I know I have a tough road ahead. Still, I want to work on my programming skills and get a job of Java Developer.
3. We can't make everyone happy. It's doesn't matter what other's think until my family feels that I am bringing disrepute to them.
4. (This was answered by me)- We are proud on you and would back you no matter what happens. Don't live someone else's dream.
5. I am hard working and I've a great learning attitude. Software Engineering is all about flexibility. If I am not worthy then I will be sidelined during mid ages. I have strong desire to learn.
6. Bangalore is the best place for starting my job hunting. I have found out about an institute, JLC that is a good place for honing programming skills. I will go for off-campus drives and I'm sure that sooner or later I will land at a good java developer profile.
7. It is not at all safe to kill my dreams. I want to go to Bangalore.

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After graduating in July last year from Medicaps Indore. My brother, Rohit  is undergoing training at JLC, Bangalore. I has attended several drives. He got nothing in hand....not even disappointments. He is still so optimistic and he is just one good day away from sitting in his cubicle writing codes. Seven Career Tips From a Jobless guy on Career Consultant

Career: Campus Placement Is The Most Hyped Thing In India by Rohan Sinha on Career Consultant

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What I Want Every Indian To Know?

Yesterday, I was having a discussion with an Indian (Muslim). The discussion we had unfolded many interesting anecdotes from our first hand experience. And, I want every other Indian to know these irrespective of their religion.

1. He told that when he was in UAE, the feeling of patriotism knows no boundary.
2. When we are outside our country, we only identify the other person as a fellow countrymen, an Indian- not a Hindu, Muslim, Sikh, Bihari, Punjabi, etc
3. The Religion, caste, creed, regional or linguistic boundaries are not at play when we are outside India.
4. Politicians divide.... Pakistan Unite....what an Irony? We consider Pakistan as an enemy and it's our enemy which unite us- which makes us rise to the occasion to show our patriotism every time a terrorist strikes.
5. When he was in Abu Dhabi, he and his Pakistani colleague were returning to their respective home country. While he was given a royal treatment, the other guy was interrogated as if he was a criminal.
6. When  his Pakistani colleague questioned about the different treatment to him, he told that it's all about the difference in the colour of our Passport. Our blue Passport is ourgateway to respect.
7. I can see the pride of my friend who was beaming with pride that there is immense respect for India & Indians in UAE, unlike Pakistan.
8. Only in areas with less literacy, the caste and religion are still an issue. TheProgressive Indians are very accommodating of the personal belief of anybody else.
9. India is a tolerant nation. You cannot judge the character of a nation by a few off incidents which can happen anywhere in the world. There are always some miscreants in every community and every nation.
10. His Hindu friend once told that he went to Mosque in UAE as all his friends went and he even read Namaz with them. Personally, I appreciate such gestures. After all, a Hindu won't turn into a Muslim by doing so, neither a Muslim can became hindu if he celebrates Indian Festivals with friends.
11. In college, when we used to play Holi, the hindu festival of colors, our Muslim friends were more than happy to not just join but take the lead.
12. And, we used to do small gestures of kindness during Ramazan for our Muslim friends.
13. If you're educated and still you've so much hatred against the other communities then I seriously worry about the quality of education imparted to you.
14. Please education anyone who has any kind of negative feeling for the other communities- whether based on religion, gender, caste, creed, region, language. I've done a little in that direction, request you to keep the Chain of Unity moving forward through each one of us.
15. Indian loves India- End of story. No need to classify us as Indian Hindu, Indian Muslim, etc.
16. Hinduism is a way of Life. We have many Gods. We are mocked for having so many Gods. Actually, the supreme God is one. The other Gods are manifestation of the same Supreme God. Everyone can have different Gods who appeal to the follower. There are various philosophies and there is nothing like right or wrong. Everything is a different shade of grey.
17. So, we have a luxury to customize our Gods. Someone may be a ardent follower of Lord Shiva, someone else might me considering Lord Vishnu as the supreme God.
18. It's so flexible. I love it because there is no hard and fast compulsion. I also love to see the dedication of a Muslim friend who would pray 5 times a day. After all, it's our private affair, why should anyone else judge someone else's religious belief.
19. And, that's harmony. I wish I am able to convey my message clearly. Pardon me for even slightly hurting anyone's sentiments.

Jai Hind!

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How Balaji Viswanathan Manages To Write Long, Elaborate And Great Answers?

As per his LinkedIn Profile, Balaji is "Product Manager at Black Duck Software".

How does he manage to write long, elaborate and great answers?

It is so because he finds time to do what will help million of people online. In the process, he became an Icon for many people across the globe. I'm an ardent fan of Balaji and here is my take on this question.

1. Purpose driven- He is not on Quora for entertainment. He write long, elaborate and great answers which servers various purposes outside Quora.
2. He is a published author. I took inspiration from him and Business Insider featured my suggestions on Interpersonal skills. Those answers from where the they took input had less than 20 upvotes.
3. Upvotes don't indicate Quality. Balaji taught me early through his Quora answers that Upvotes are not a benchmark of Quality. Writing content of less or no value is a real waste of time. This left him with no choice other than quitting or writing helpful stuffs.
4. Write stuffs that inspire your readers.While I stopped writing for audience- over a dozen quora answers got thousands of upvotes each. Balaji taught that Patience pays...Know your audience but don't write just for them. Let Quality attract readers.
5. His answers would be an asset while writing books. I'm sure that his quora answers would help him publish many books on wide range of topics like Business Starategy, Startups, Indian History, India, Indian Ethnicity & People, Economics, Politics of India, History, World History, International Relations, Jobs and careers, etc.
6. Balaji knows how to get lucky and that's why he finds time to write great answers Rohan Sinha's answer to How do I get some of my best Quora answers published in TIME, Forbes, Fortune like Balaji Viswanathan?

Is Balaji Viswanathan lucky?

Yes, he is!

He is lucky because he has sharp memory, good reading speed, good command over language to explain complicated things in an easy way. The analogies he uses are just awesome.

He is so lucky. I don't feel jealous of him. Because, I know how he got lucky.

Because, I know how to get published in TIME, FORBES,etc.

He is lucky because he works hard. He is a published author because he works hard, really hard. He is disciplined and self motivated. He is on quora for many years and is contributing constantly. It reflects his level of commitment. He writes quality stuffs. He entertains while explaining the most boring topics. He even upvoted couple of my really long, boring but helpful answers. So yes, he has patience, also.

Above all, he is a master execution specialist. He gets things done. When you keep learning and writing high quality stuffs that helps the readers immensely then sooner or later you will get published in TIME, FORBES,etc.

LUCKY THINGS HAPPEN WHEN WE KEEP DOING MANY THINGS!

All the best :)

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One Important Life Lesson

Sometimes we fail once to learn a lesson. Sometimes failing twice might ensure that we embibe that lesson. However, some lessons are too hard to implement in our life. Some lessons still are difficult to bring in practice even after failing for 3,4,5...n numbers of times. It hurts...It's frustrating yet can't tell to anyone. It makes us feel like a loser who can't learn a simple lesson. Don't hold your tears...don't hold your footsteps. Don't judge yourself, don't curse yourself, because at the darkest moment even our own shadow leaves us. Rise after every failure, keep moving and keep trying even when you're a hopeless case for others. Don't lose hope, because many a times, that's the only thing that can keep you moving forward ...:)

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Ten Life Tips

1. EGO
1. Tone down your ego.
2. Never hurt anyone else's ego.
3. Don't massage anyone's ego.
2. HELL
1. When you're going through hell. Have patience. This too shall pass.
2. When others are going through hell. Be a cheerleader and try to lift their spirit.
3. Hell and Heaven are on Earth. You just need to believe.
3. TRUST
1. It takes years to build trust.
2. It shatters into pieces within a blink of eyes.
3. Be Mindful. Be Trustworthy.
4. RESPECT
1. It cannot be demanded. Don't confuse someone's fear as Respect.
2. You command it through your action.
3. Respect others without any expectation. Your life will be different.
5. LEADER
1. A Leader is not the one appointed by someone else.
2. We all are a leader when our focus is on the collective goal rather than our individual gain.
3. You're a leader when you step down and let someone more credible to take the lead.
6. MASK
1. A Mask is a huge responsibility. Be sensible when you put a mask.
2. Don't harass others when you're invisible.
3. Do great things with the Mask so that your acts are selfless.
7. ANGEL
1. Angels exist in this world.
2. The goodness within us is fueled by the angels.
3. People come and go from your life...there are angels at play.
8. IDEA
1. Never miss an amazing idea. Brainstorm on it and bring it to life.
2. Smallest of action is better than the best of intention.
3. Proper Execution of a plan is more important that the Idea.
9. STORY
1. Not all stories are love stories.
2. Some stories are worth telling even when nobody is interested.
3. Many stories die when we clear draft. Backspace killed many stories.
10. LIFE
1. Life is like a game of chess. Messy yet beautiful. Breathtaking!
2. Life is like a bus journey, someone will get down at every stop.
3. Everyone gets abundant love but not necessarily from the quarters they expect.

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I'm 28 And I've Screwed My Life. Is It Too Late?

You have not screwed your life provided you learn from your mistakes. Everything that happens in life is an experience.

Steve Jobs was regarded as a Perfectionist but he was far from perfect and that's what makes him an inspiring role model.

• He failed to hire the right person when he cherry picked John Sculley.
• John choreographed the exit of the man who hired him- Steve Jobs.
• Steve Jobs was kicked out from the company founded by him- i.e. Apple.
• Jobs made a re-entry into Apple after 12 years - stronger, better and with a wide array of experiences under his belt.
• He used illegal drugs during college, dropped out and had failed relationships.

Take Steve as an Inspiration and trust me, your background would never hold your footsteps. You're in Jail and now you're writing a question on an International Platform- Quora. Your experience is unique and of high value to us.

Valmiki has written the epic poem - Ramayana which is highly revered and respected across the world. Valmiki was a robber who used to kill people and rob them prior to turning into a legendary poet and saint who is revered for his greatness.

There is never too late to do something or to be something in life. I'm sorry, you're late and probably you can't be the youngest computer science graduate now but that's not what is troubling you. Am I right?

It was neither too late for Jobs to be revered as a legend nor Valmiki to quit his past and transform himself into a great writer-poet.

Enough of motivation!!! Get up now and fold your sleeves. You've a tough road ahead like all of us. Let us sail through hell cheering each other. You're not alone...there are many people who are sailing through the same sea of confusion, fear and uncertainty.

You can do it..we can do it because there is never too late to be great.

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Most Common Life Mistakes People make in 20s

Most Common Life Mistakes

I have failed, I envy others. Nothing is permanent. Failures are commas not full stop. A girl failed to get Science as she got less marks in Class Xth and hence she opted for Commerce. Many frowned upon her. Today, I got to know that she did LLB and after than did her Masters from Europe and has got an hefty offer. I work for the largest Construction company in India and make a little less than half of her salary. 

Although Money, College, Job, etc are poor benchmark of success yet I have used money as a benchmark just to give an idea about how the society judges us. Never envy others and learn to appreciate others when they achieve something good. She is a wonderful person and I am happy that many will be inspired to know about her.

I am waiting for the perfect moment- There is nothing called perfect moment. Try to get the maximum out of whatever you have. Minimize Procrastination, and never wait for the perfect moment. Life happens when we wait for the perfect moment.

It has been too late to learn or take charge of our life- It is never too late to learn and improve our life. Do you feel that you have not achieved enough at say 21 years. Let me share about APJ Abdul kalam. He was a popular scientist but he became world famous after he was chosen as India's president at the age of 70 years. He was literally unknown till 70 years of age. 

Charles Darwin, yes from your Biology Textbook was considered as Insane as till 50 years of age, according to people he was a wanderer. He was doing research and when he published his book after 50 years of age, he started getting recognition. 

Albert Einstein has worked as a Clerk but that didn't prevented him from becoming a great scientist of all time.

I don't have zeal to learn- Larry Page invented Google and it became a dream company for many people.  He just followed his passion. May be he was also not having the zeal to learn or work on the traditional subjects. So he created something new.

Our Problems are terribly difficult- Our problems are not as difficult as it seems to us. 20 years down the line it will hardly matter if you got a plum job after college or you are jobless, if you have a gf/bf or not in college, if you have failed in the exams or have topped it. Meet me after 20 years and we will discuss your current problems over coffee.

I am Good for Nothing-  Everything in this universe is for some purpose. Crocodile cannot fly and Butterfly cannot swim. There is no point for the crocodile to feel bad that he cannot fly or the butterfly to feel bad for not being able to swim. Doesn't it makes sense. Same is with all of us. We just need to identify things which makes us happy.  

I have wasted X years of my life- We feel that we have wasted our life but you know, nothing is wasted in this world. Do you know the story of bamboo tree?  It doesn’t show sign of growth in first four- five years. But, in the next one year it will grow rapidly. Now, the reality is that the growth doesn't occur only in one year, it happens over a period of 5-6 years. 

During the first 5 years the growth of roots is happening and the foundation is getting stronger which let the bamboo to grow rapidly in last one year. Same is with all of us. We just need six months to a year to have a visible growth. All the years before that are definitely not wasted. Believe me.  Good experience gives you joy, bad experience build your character and personality. So, they both are equally important.  

I don't have Natural Talent-  Galileo told that the earth moves around the sun. But at that time, Everyone  felt that he was wrong and people wanted to kill him. Everyone knew that  Earth was fixed and sun revolved around the earth, which was later proved wrong . Galileo was considered as a mad man all his life. The poor chap got all the recognition after his death. Even today all our textbooks are full with works of  Galileo. 

Not only him, Abraham Lincoln was unable to win even a local election, all his life he failed in whatever he did. He failed more than us for sure and see one day he became the president of US. It was not luck but hard work. Remember the bamboo story. See it's working.   

It will not work out- Follow your heart and chase your dreams as they are worth it. There is nothing which can't work out even when the idea looks ridiculous to others. The key is that you must believe in the idea, that’s it. 

In India, almost everyone loves cricket and is a cricket commentator. But, that doesn't stopped Harsha Bhogle from becoming a full time Cricket Commentator after his post graduation from IIM Ahmadabad. He must have been mocked for his choice of profession but he had passion for it and he pursued something he loved doing. If you are a Movie Buff - You can be an expert reviewer and can also earn and get paid for watching movies and writing reviews.

I am at a Disadvantage-  Disability is the inability to know ability. Read out the lessons from so-called disadvantaged girls, Virali Modi,  Miss Wheelchair India 2014, Runner Up  and Ira Singhal, Differently abled UPSC Topper .  Rohan Sinha's answer to When is it advantageous to be disadvantaged?

I don't give a damn to People- The world is all about people. Make sure to be nice and respectful to others. Always strive to add value to the life of others. Never let good people go out of your sight. Thanks for your time.  :)

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Most Unfair Advantage a person can have

Intelligent Spouse

Beauty shall pass with time, Money shall pass with ignorance, Job shall pass with recession, Fair skin shall pass with age.

Slim body can turn into a pumpkin, High social status can turn into Low (by misfortune) but one thing shall not pass and that is Intelligence. 

An Intelligent spouse can really make your life beautiful.

Many wants to marry someone with good looks, slim body , Fair skin, Fat paycheck and/or high social status, leaving the chance to get an intelligent spouse to their luck or karma.

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I am in Class 8th. How to ensure good rank in IITs?

1. Patience is what Irrfan Khan is to Bollywood. Acquire it!
2. Stay Foolish so that people don't mind teaching you, Stay Hungry so that you always strive to acquire new skills and gain knowledge.
3. Focus on the present. Do well in academics in Class VIII. Participate in extracurricular activities. Take part in Debates, Discussions, etc.
4. Start taking care of your physical and mental well being.  Eat Healthy, Drink plenty of water, Exercise.
5. Concentration- Learn to Meditate and improve your level of concentration. Play mind games to exercise your mind and keep it fit and active.
6. Positive Attitude- It is a game changer. Please develop a rock solid attitude that helps you deal with the uncomfortable situations in life.
7. Enjoy the roller coaster ride that life offers. NEVER BACK DOWN.
8. Understand that Life is not a race. Don't follow what everyone else is doing.
9. Understand rules of the game. Create your own path. Rewrite rules.
10. Confidence is the key. Work on improving it.
11. Life is all about people. Make friends. Help others. Be a mentor. Get mentored. Follow your role models but be yourself.
12. Be Unique. Stand out among the crowd. It is not that difficult as it seems.
13. Failing to plan means Planning to fail. Learn to be disciplined.
14. Keep pushing your comfort zone. Go outside. It might look like a scary movie but you would love it.
15. Failures are commas not full stops. Pause at a failures to evaluate our strategy. Love
16. When one opportunity leaves another comes. We can't drop tears as it might blur our vision and we may miss the next opportunity.
17. Respect your parents and teachers. Good deeds payback good returns.
18. Life, Time and Pain are great teacher. They never stop teaching so you should never stop learning.
19. Don't try to be successful, Be talented. Success will itself chase you when you make yourself worthy of it. Remember Rancho of 3 Idiot's.
20. All is well. (Keep chanting because you must have watched 3- Idiots, if not then please go and watch it).
21. Play Sports. You will learn team work. You will need this skill life long.

Follow these 21 tips given above as Even when the elephant sits, it is taller than the goat. Be the "Elephant" and stand out among the herd of goats.

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Lessons from Heartbreak and setbacks in life

1. Memories fade with time.
2. Get hurt but not broken, you will bounce back stronger.
3. Not everyone is going to be with you forever. Accept it.
4. Life is beautiful with the scars and scratches. It was never meant to be perfect. Love the imperfections in your life.
5. Things which hurts teaches life lessons. Never miss those lessons!
6. Never hurt a heart that loves you as wounded hearts are like crushed flowers.
7. Every thing happens for a reason. Admit it.
8. Never let past experiences make your present bitter.
9. Some people left for good, you will realize it someday.
10. Never compromise your life goals for someone.
11. When you touch the lowest point in your life, you can be rest assured that you can now only go up and up.
12. It's best to go on a date with yourself often. Go solo to travel or explore something or watch a movie. Sometimes, we need our own company.
13. Pamper yourself more often. Do things which makes you happy. Love yourself. You need it.
14. Have a bucket list of things to do in life. It keeps you focused on what's matter's in life.
15. Never put all your eggs in one basket. Once the basket will disappear then you will be left high and dry.
16. What doesn't kill you make you stronger. Hmmm!
17. Some things are better left untold. Some things must always be told.
18. Life is a freeway, allow people to come in and go out of your life at their free will. Just make sure that no one blocks the way!
19. Some questions are better left unanswered as some answers are too harsh to deal with. Someday you will learn it...you will learn it!
20. Saddest feeling is to know that people try to find a nice way to slowly move out without hurting. Hehe...are they kidding!
21. Words are powerful. Use them wisely.
22. A heart of stone is made of tears that have frozen. So true! Melt them and feel light.
23. Nothing soothe a pain better than a sad song. That's why they are evergreen and always in demand.

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What should men know by 22?

You are on the verge of getting into the job market. Here are some things that will be helpful

1. Find a Mentor in your industry.
2. Never quit on a dream. Keep half an hour aside each day for making your dream a reality.
3. Work hard, really hard. No work is small. When I joined, I got the job of following up with people who defaulted on their commitments. It felt like a Mechanical engineer is doing a BPO job in a construction company. Thankfully I had a 2 years bond of 2 Lakh else I would have run away. Within few months, I started interacting with clients and suppliers. I was handling things on my own. I have seen extremes as a newbie. The transition from a less demanding role to a high demanding one was not easy but enriching. So, have patience and learn to do so-called small jobs at times.
4. Rejections are prized possessions-I failed to get into IITs even after 2 sincere attempts, when my friend was 22, he was so obsessed with IITs that he told that he would take re-birth again to get into IITs. Please don’t judge him, his elder brother was an IITian and he must have experienced something which made him tell so.
5. Never be ashamed if you are not placed during campus placement. Campus Placement is over-hyped.

My brother is 22, he completed his engineering from one of the top 5 colleges of MP but he couldn’t get placed in the campus selection.  We knew the scenario of placement in MP, so have asked him to prepare well in advance for the placement season. He studied hard but still, he couldn’t make it to any of the good companies that visited his campus. He is unplaced. But, don’t pity on him. 

He would often clear the written test. Time and again he was getting rejected in the final round of selection.  It was a great feat to get into the last 15-20 students out of a pool of more than 1000 candidates, that too after surviving many rounds. For us, he was a winner but for the world he was just another guy who failed to grab a job in campus. 

He is currently honing his programming skills at the best institute in Bangalore. It has been a little more than a month and the confidence he has got is incredible. I am sure that he can land in a decent job soon. Though, we are not in hurry and have advised him to take a job only where he can learn and grow professionally. Money is secondary thing for a fresher. Some of my cousins have followed the same path and have started their career with as low as 10K bucks per month and now after 8-9 years, they all are earning  15+ LPA. So, don’t think that if you start with a small company then you are going to be struck with a low paying job. 

I am sharing about him now just because there are many other 22 years old who are upset as they have graduated and have no job in hand. People with good intentions also end up hurting guys who are unplaced. A week ago my sister got job offers from two reputed IT companies. She already had a job offer from an upcoming startup where she did her Internship this summer. I also got two job offers in college. All this, make people compare my brother with us. We were from a college that has a good placement record. I am glad that our family has learned not to panic in this situation. 

The extra struggle my brother has to do will only make him stronger and better. When you have positive attitude then adversity is a better teacher than luxury.  I keep reminding him that  5 year down the line , we all will give his examples to all those who are unplaced. 

WORK HARD, HOPE for the best! God help those who help themselves.If you need any help, feel free to ping me. :)

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