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| Me with my superman Dad, Image copyright @ RohanSinha |
Happy
Father’s Day, Dad! I forgot to call you in the morning as I wake up late after
attending my friend’s birthday party last night. It was you who called me this
morning for some reason and before hanging the phone you indirectly asked whether I had to
say anything and I said No.
Immediately
after our conversation ended, I got one message from Dominos and immediately realized
that today is Father’s day. I called instantly to wish him and told that I
remembered Father’s day but forgot it today. I am writing this to acknowledge
that Fathers are generally unable to express their love for their children.
They are not like Mothers, who don’t shy from expressing their love and
affection for their child.
Fathers
are always there like a pillar of support
and act as a Firewall and save us from all that may harm us. They are concerned
with our progress, our success and our well being. But, unlike Mothers, can’t
express it always. Generally children are more attached to Mothers because fathers
are perceived as more strict.
Mothers
and Fathers have complementary qualities which are required for the all round
development of a child. I want to say
that my motivation to study when I felt otherwise was the inspiration I got
from the hard work my father was doing. During his career of more than thirty
five years, I remember those difficult times when you had to commute for more
than 6-7 hours. In those times also, he
used to find the positive aspects of the situation.
My
father is a realist but when it comes to handling difficult situation then at
that time he is a very optimistic person.
At more than double my age, he is more athletic and can handle more work
than me. It is a reminder and motivation that I need to improve so much to
match his capabilities. He is very strong emotionally and is the perfect
barrier from all that is undesirable and harmful.
The
ability to handle extreme pressure and patience are the key attributes of my
father. He has outstanding people management skills and has very good sense of
humor. Many executives fail to handle extreme pressure and this makes me
believe that my father can be an asset in a corporate company. However, as far
as I understand, he has some other plans after his retirement as a staunch
banker. My respect for my father only goes up and up with each passing moment.
Few
days ago, I came across a question on a social network where a member wanted to
find a mentor as he didn’t had good relationship with his father. I really
pitied on that poor ignorant fellow that no mentor can take place of one’s
father and one should always respect and love one’s own father and mother. Petty
things must not affect a relationship, as pure as that of a Father and a child.
I don’t know whether I was successful in enlightening that ignorant questioner
but I am satisfied that I did what I felt was correct.
I am
really worried by the current trend where many people fight with their parents
over property or other trivial matters. It is a shame for India that these
types are incidents are occurring in this holy land. I am hopeful that the
so-called modern generation has the wisdom to regard their parents as their
real asset and feel the bliss.
Another
disturbing trend is that people find it easier to keep a pet but their parents
are a burden to them. It is shameful that we are unable to fulfill our duty. I feel it is the responsibility of every
child, male or female to take care of their parents and in-laws. And more than
one child means more support and love. The children must all die to serve their
parents. The draconian rules have to be abolished and new and more reasonable
approach has to be adopted to be on the right track.
Parents
are the gems of every family; they have to be accorded highest regards and
utmost care in every home. They are not meant to spend the last stage of their
life in old age home. I can only say that what you are doing to your parents
will be learned and implemented on you by your own child. So, chose carefully
what you want your child to learn.
I
have also experienced that there have been times in the past when you feel that
your Dad is strict, and you fear them. Then they start opening up as you grow
up and during this time you start feeling that there are many things your Dad
can do differently. You question many of his decisions and feel like you are
the one who knows everything better than your Dad. After that ignorant phase, once
you grow to my age you will have a different perspective and will gradually
realized that your dad was always perfect.
I
now know that when I was a kid, my dad was a bit strict so that I don’t acquire
bad habits. Gradually, he started to become more of a friend and you never realize
when this happened that he is the most trusted friend. I know my father loves
me a lot but he will never express that often. The love of a dad is
unconditional and probably to understand it better, I have to be one someday.
But, I only want to make my father and mother proud and do things which make
them feel special and blessed to have me as their child.
I can only say that I am blessed to have you
as my father. I am also incapable to express my love, respect and admiration
for you in person. Hope someday we overcome our inhibition and express our love
and affection for one another.
BY-
Rohan Sinha
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