Why do some people dislike Feminism?

Day 1-  I was informed that Delhi is a horrible place as someone abused a girl and that too at a traffic signal. I was angry to know about it. I felt sorry for the girl and I cursed the guy for being a shame for all the males.  The accused was arrested. I appreciated Delhi Police for a quick response.  

Media houses ( Times Now) invited the victim, Jasleen Kaur who narrated her version of the story. It was well choreographed to make sure that someone like me didn't trace anything fishy in it.  While watching the show, my friend told the accused looks decent and innocent. I snapped that let us not go by the looks. He looks like us as he is one among us.

Day 2- I came to know from my colleagues that, the only women fighting for men in India, Deepika Bhardwaj is defending the case of the accused boy. The boy had posted his version of the story before going to Jail and he also seems convincing. Slowly things started unfolding and we came to know that neither he initiated the fight nor he abused her as eye witness started to come out and support his version. 

Now my perception of him was changing and I was happy that I didn't shared the girl's facebook post. I was a bit guilty as I have kept my brain in the fridge and have blindly accepted what this girl told as the eternal truth.
I felt offended and confused. In the background, I heard someone telling it's all Feminism.  I forgot the case and for the first time in life wanted to know about Feminism. I read that it is a doctrine which supports equal rights for women. 

I immediately realized that it means that I am a feminist.  After all, I love to have equal rights for my sister as well as my brother.  I don’t like discrimination on the basis of gender.  But, after reading a bit more about feminism, I realized that I am not a feminist. It is so because I practice many discrimination which are like:

• Train Tickets- I ask my sister to take a 2nd  AC if Ticket is not available in 3rd AC but I often suggest my brother to go for Sleeper class if he is unable to get a 3rd AC train Ticket.
• I am partial- I love my sister a little more than my brother. A portion of my saving each month goes to a separate account to buy an expensive gift for my sister on her wedding.
• What a hypocrite I am? You can understand the  dilemma between the love of a brother and the his belief that exchange of expensive gifts in cash or kinds on Wedding is Dowry. :( I never plan anything for my wedding or my brother's wedding. I hate to have a fat wedding for myself but I would not mind arranging one for my sister. You might not understand.
• Double Standards for boys and girls-I worry when my sister travel alone or even when she is with her friends but I am least bothered about my brother when he travels.
• She is our princess but I try to make sure that I don't infringe her space- When my brother doesn't pick calls and Mom panics, I tell her 100 reasons not to worry. But, when my sister doesn't pick call, I go restless and I call everyone from her friends to hostel warden to the Administrative officer. ( PS- I was in the same college so I know many people)
• Feminist say that people like me love our Mom less- I argue with my Mom more often compared to my Dad.  My cousin (sister ) told it is because we respect our Mom less. I was worried to hear that. She told that this was the logic of a feminist in a video. I saw the video of that feminist who made viral videos. I was really hurt by the Male bashing in her videos. May be I am egoist. But, I never felt so pity on males. I don’t know but definitely most of the children are closer to their Moms and love their Moms slightly more than their Dads, So they are easy going with their Moms. Where is the question of less respect to Moms? I support my Mom's case in most of her debates with my Dad. It boiled my blood to know that I respect my Mom less as per a so-called feminist.
• I fail to understand Feminism-Someone shows a guy smoking cigarette in an advertisement (ad) and we guys are ok with it. But, I learned that Feminist are not ok when someone shows an Ad in which a woman is washing dish plates.  I do house chores and feel that washing kitchenware, clothes or cleaning our house is not the role of only women. We all have to share the responsibilities. But, I don’t find the reason to cry foul when a girl is shown washing utensils. Feminist should also cry when a guy is shown smoking cigarette. ( Equality for women also guarantee equality for men)

There are many other observations but I don't want to instigate a fight between boys and girls over a sticky issue. Really, I don't understand feminism.  But, I do learn that feminism started with a Noble cause to provide equal right to women in an era when they were deprived of it. Many across the world are still deprived of it. We must never forget that Feminism is a doctrine with equal rights to women ( it also means equal rights for men.)

I am a staunch supporter of everything that is for the betterment of the lives of women.  I also want to ensure that there should not be any clashes between men and women based on issues like those I mentioned above.  
We got independence 68 years ago. US has got it’s freedom 239 years ago. Our society is evolving and I am sure that within next 20-30 years things will get streamlined.  Currently, neither the society is equal nor the laws are equal for both men and women. The society is such that women in India can’t do many things freely here which might be a normal thing for a westerner. Similarly our Laws are heavily biased against men as rightly pointed out by Anushree Prakash B,

"Lie from a woman is truth until proven otherwise" and
"Truth from a man is a lie until proven otherwise"

Please say no to Male Bashing and say yes to Women Empowerment.