Some Myths about Happiness

Here is my take on a topic which is close to my heart. I will bust some Myths about happiness:

• Happiness is the result of success - (No it is not, my office boy seems more happy than me.  The guy who was moping the washroom floor looked more satisfied and happy to me. Happiness is an attitude! (PS- Success is also relative and for me those who are happy are successful)
• Happiness is a function of money, love, power, respect, health, etc. ( No, my friends who earn more than me and are pampered more that me are less happier than me, even some of my friends who have less materialistic pleasure than me are among the happiest lot of people I know. Yesterday, I saw profile of Virali Modi, she defied death many times and reading her answers make me feel that despite being in a wheel chair she is happier than me. And, let me clarify that I consider myself as a Happy person)
• Happiness is a goal ( Happiness is not a goal. It is the by-product of our actions. Like, if we do what we love or we love what we do then we are happy. Happiness is a journey not the destination.)
• We should run behind happiness? (Don't run as you can never find it that way. Do the right things, experience the beautiful things in and around you, be less arrogant and more humble, be a little less self centered and help others for no reason and then I am sure that happiness will itself find you.

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Can a guy earning 20 Lakh INR per Annum in Bangalore be unhappy?

Money is a poor benchmark of happiness. Happiness mostly depends on our attitude. Two friends working at the same office in the same capacity of with equal salary will have different level of happiness. Why? It's not logical but psychological. It depends of our attitude, expectation,preferences, etc.

By the way, my office boy is happier than me as he has been promoted from doing office chores like serving tea to assisting us in paperwork. Our team unanimously agree that he is happiest among us. 

Where as my senior colleagues, who are getting way more than me find me as a happy and optimistic person. Happiness has many definitions. It is a relative thing. It can't be measured like temperature. It can be only experienced.

Bonus Tip for instant happiness- Close your eyes and think of your memorable vacation with your loved one. It  acts like Glucose and  injects immediate happiness.

Make a list of things that you love doing. After that, make a habit to check the list and often do those things. You will always feel happy.

Someday, you will feel bad, have a support group to sail through those times. Luckily, I have got couple of friends whom I am able to tell when I am feeling low. Talking to them, their kind gestures often helps in bouncing back as a better and stronger person. Thanks to them that I have just recovered a low point. :)

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6 Things to do everyday to be happy

1. Recognition is short lived-  Don't get too happy to get recognition. I was happy to get the tag of the Most Viewed Writer for Emotion and Philosophy. After staying unknown for 3 months on Quora, it was a welcome change. I didn't knew that it was only for one day :(
2. Life is not a race- Slow down on a busy day and show some empathy toward others. Wave at kids. Greet those who have a thankless job like Peon, office boy, sweeper, security guard. Smell the flowers, listen to the chirping of birds, etc. It feels good.
3. Share thoughts with strangers- There are many things which are harmless to share with strangers or with someone online whom you have never met. Be cautious not to share personal things. I told someone that I had a heavy headache and their advice helped. I didn't told that to Mom else she would have panicked.
4. Earn Trust of others everyday- Nothing feels better that knowing that someone trusts you. NEVER ever break the trust of others. Being Trustworthy is the best thing you can do for yourself. It also makes your life simpler as you get a sense of responsibility for your actions.
5. You are an amazing product that is getting daily updates  - Every day presents an opportunity to be better. There are enormous possibilities in all our fears, failures, defeat, success, good experience, bad experience, etc. If we learn the lessons from everything that happen to us daily then we are destined to get better with time.
6. Never make someone the center of your life -Make sure that you have lots of centers in your life. Don't keep all your eggs in one basket as if the basket is gone, you are left high and dry. It is the Best thing to do everyday to ensure happiness for today, for tomorrow and for everyday.

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One Thing that I can do today to make my parents happy

That one thing which will make them delighted is that I should call my Mom and say " Mom, I want to marry, soon".

Well, they are getting crazy to get me married; So, if I show some interest towards their venture today then  they would be the happiest lot and would smile, laugh and probably dance.  But, I want to keep them waiting for that to happen and would make them happy by informing them that I am coming home  during Dusshera :)

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What is happiness?

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Happiness is that feeling when your mother thank you for giving her your first salary.

Happiness is that feeling when your rock solid Dad is so moved by something you did that even he is finding it difficult to control his tears.

Happiness is that feeling when your brother will say that you are his lucky charm and want to inherit your good qualities.

Happiness is that feeling your sister is proud on you.

Happiness is that feeling when someone receives your old clothes and gives you so much blessings as if you have brought them moon.

Happiness is that feeling when you know that you are loved.

Happiness is that feeling you experience when you do what you love.

Happiness is that feeling you get when you do something good without any expectation from others.

Happiness is that feeling when you slow down to cherish small things in life like listening to chirping of birds, feel the breeze, smell the flower,etc.

Happiness is that feeling when you laugh so much that you start crying.

Happiness is that feeling when you read a book that takes you to another era.

Happiness is to write about your feeling and feel happy to read your experience after many years.

Happiness is to get a 10 rupees note from the pocket of the shirt you have not wore for  years.

Happiness is to do something good for someone without their knowledge.

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